I’ve been meaning to write this post for over a month now, but one thing after another has delayed my time in front of the keyboard. We are indeed expecting a fourth baby Wills this summer! We kept this one a secret for a lot longer this time, which was really hard to do since I was pregnant and super sick at Christmas. So, yeah, during that crazy Christmas we had travelling all over the place and visiting tons of family… pregnant and sick! Not the best way to spend the holidays. Mostly we kept this one a secret because we didn’t expect a very enthusiastic response from certain family members, and our expectations were spot on. This shouldn’t come as a surprise to most people, but we LOVE our kids, and we love having a big family. So to those of you judging us right now, four kids is not for everyone, but it is for us!
We took a funny video of us telling the kids, but in the craziness of the basement renovation and Portman’s office moving a hundred times, the video has gone missing. Instead, enjoy this fuzzy picture of a sonogram taken on my phone because our scanner is also broken:
But on to the good stuff. We are so, so excited to be “rounding out” our clan. We talked a ton about whether or not to have a fourth, and ultimately it came down to “you can’t ride a roller coaster as a family of 5.” Not that we ride that many roller coasters, but there are a lot of things in life that you do in pairs, and we like the idea of everyone having a buddy. That being said, this is probably going to be my last pregnancy. I’m not trying to break any records or score a reality TV show, ya’ll. We always said that four is our “perfect number,” and I really think it is.
We watched a stand-up comedy skit recently where the comedian was talking about the birth of his 4th kid. He said “people ask me all the time what it’s like to have four kids, and this is what I tell them: imagine you are drowning, and then someone hands you a baby.” That’s pretty much what we expect this to be like! We having many days now where we feel like we are drowning, but they are balanced by days that are really awesome, and those make it all worth it.
One thing that I wondered about when we just had Harper was how you divide yourself among kids. Now, I’m infinitely amazed at how love can grow by division. Our kids are challenging, but smart, fun, and full of life, and we couldn’t love them more. The other fun thing about having more and more of them is the love that they show for each other. Our house is full of hugs, kisses and kind words (on the days that it isn’t full of bickering) and it just makes me melt!
Ada turns two at the end of April, so this will be our biggest gap between kids, although not by that much. I’m optimistic that she will be potty trained before the baby is born, but if not, it won’t be the end of the world. I’ve always had an infant plus a toddler in diapers, so that I can handle. In terms of space, the girls are already sharing a room, so the baby will move into Ada’s old room (and Portman’s office of the last few months). Ada is still in our only crib, so we will need to work on getting her into a big girl bed this summer. If she isn’t ready, the baby will probably hang out in a pack n’ play for a while. One thing is certain: we are not buying any more baby equipment! Good lord, this house is bursting at the seams with baby stuff.
We had a lot of fun telling the kids, and here were their reactions:
Harper: I don’t remember exactly what she said, but she was SO excited. Big smiles, lots of questions, and demands that it be a boy (so that we have two girls and two boys). Harper is thrilled beyond words to have another baby around, and is already asking me to have six (total). Um, no.
Roman: “if it’s a boy, I hope it’s a funny gorilla named Chewbacca.” He pretty much only cares about Star Wars and Legos right now. I’m cool with that. Also, oddly enough Roman says he would like another sister.
Ada: “More cookie.” She really has a one-track mind. Of the three of them, Ada is going to have the hardest time adjusting. She very much associates with being the “baby” in the family, so we have a few more months to make her feel like a big kid!
Finally, to answer any lingering questions: no we are not finding out the gender (we would like this to be one last big surprise). I was getting strong boy vibes for a while, but now I’m not positive. It will definitely be a surprise. We are pretty sure we have names picked out, and no we are not sharing them. I was feeling horribly sick in December and January, but much better now. I have no appetite for sweets, and have been craving things like arugula salad and savory dishes. Yes, it is exhausting being pregnant and chasing after 3 other kids all day (duh?) I have no idea how much weight I’ve gained because our scale broke, but I feel like I’m constantly eating. I’m already looking forward to getting rid of my maternity clothes, which can’t be a good sign! We bought a pre-owned HondaOdyssey at the end of last year, so we are all set with the minivan. There is literally nothing that we have to buy for this baby – the beauty of having a bunch of kids!